How Pain Can Be Turned to Joy

photo by Ira Shorr

photo by Ira Shorr

Just over a week ago I joined with about 150 people for a bracing plunge into the Potomac River near Washington, DC!

No, we were not insane.  At least not mostly.  We were raising money for the organization international climate leader Bill McKibben calls “the best regional climate organization in the world,’  the Chesapeake Climate Action Network (CCAN).

All of us ‘plungers’ had reached out to family and friends, asking them to support our plunge by making a donation to CCAN.   And collectively, we raised more than $125,000, enough to make a difference.

Fortifying ourselves and each other with whoops and hollers, we all charged out into the frigid river.  And it was our willingness to discomfit ourselves by plunging into the cold water that inspired our friends and family to make their own sacrifice (in financial form), in the service of a cause we all believe in. 

What a joyful day that was for me!  And a great gift to me to be able to experience such happiness, especially in relation to climate change, which is one of my greatest pains.

Grief about what we’re doing to the earth is my all-too-frequent companion.  I anguish over the fact that we are in the process of condemning our children and those who come after them to a life that is much harder than ours because the planet on which they live has become destabilized.  It breaks my heart to know that we are in the middle of a huge wave of extinctions, caused, in part, by global warming.  And then there is the deep frustration I feel because Donald Trump has made our country the only one on earth that is not part of the Paris climate accord.

All those sources of pain!  But the earth is my beloved, so I feel duty-bound to do what I can to protect this incredibly wonderful home of ours.

And here is the small miracle, the grace in this dilemma.  By acting with others to protect my beloved, the earth, I gain relief from the pain.  That’s the meaning of the joy I felt in our Polar Bear Plunge.

I have learned that I feel great when I join with others to do something about that which is causing us all so much pain.  Our shared pain is the motivator that brings us together.  And then we share the joy of being part of a team, a team that takes effective action to safeguard the planet we love.

However much of that happiness comes from making a contribution toward winning the battle for our climate, and how much comes from our camaraderie, this I know:  at least for me, joining with people to do something constructive changes the whole experience of confronting what is so painful for me to see.

And this emotional alchemy–turning pain into joy–can be a gift for many who, in these days, are feeling pain at what they see happening now in America, with Donald Trump as President.

These are indeed difficult times, when so much on which our climate, and also our democracy, depend is getting battered and may even be up for grabs.  So I  encourage anyone who is feeling that kind of pain to use it to become a force for good.  Joining with others in effective action will not only move the world in a good direction, but it will also lift your spirits.–April Moore

I would like to acknowledge my husband Andy Sschmookler, for contributing valuable insights that helped shape this piece.

 

 

15 Responses to “How Pain Can Be Turned to Joy”

  1. Diane Loomis Says:

    You are inspiring!

  2. Tanya Bohlke Says:

    Beautifully said.

  3. Mike Tidwell Says:

    Perfectly said April. You were such an inspiration to everyone else at the plunge with your speech and your action. You make a difference in this fight! Thank you. Mike

  4. Todd Waymon Says:

    Your photo captures your happiness so well; congratulations!! You (and Andy) may find it helpful to watch this video by Michael Dowd – or maybe you have. He takes us through the six stages of grief.
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mi05N6koYN0 Peace, Todd

  5. Anne Nielsen Says:

    Yes, April, and your commitment helps the rest of us to risk some pain on behalf of the future of our children and Earth, and to find some joy, however temporary, in that.

  6. Gsil Says:

    April, I agree with all of the above. You so eloquently clarify that sorrow/joy axis axis that can lift us out of despondence and help us find meaning in productive action and connection with others. Thanks for enlightening us and inspiring us.

  7. Laura Crites Says:

    Thanks dear friend for all that you do to make the world a better place. You are amazing and inspiring!

  8. Katharine Says:

    Love it….thanks April!!

  9. James Says:

    Without the sun, there would be no life here. The sun`s impact on the climate and on our future is becoming increasingly clear: https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/how-sunlight-can-control-climate/ But your pain has been duly noted.

  10. sandra rose Says:

    April, Comforting thoughts to salve my wounded heart and downcast spirit. I always crawl out from under the burdensome veil of dispair at the politcal ambushes and the general spirit of abject meanness on our country, but it is only because I always find the light you offer as a friend and determined spirit. Knowing that I breathe the same air as you and commrades, I am uplifted and re-energized to press on. Thank you for this post.

    Sandi Rose

  11. Fred Andrle Says:

    Wonderful! As you point out, April, our shared pain can be transmuted to joy. And a fine way to do that is to join in purpose and celebration with others, as you did.

  12. Patsy Wagner Says:

    Yes, joining with others does help cope with grief.

  13. Donna Says:

    Beautiful. It is the untold stories that hold us back. Shared stories of life’s pains and joys give us strength. Thank you.

  14. Alice Holden Says:

    April, You never cease to amaze me! You have truly captured and expressed your feelings in such a heartfelt, touching manner regarding climate change. Your words give me pause and should have a lasting affect on all your readers. Many thanks. Alice Holden

  15. Terence Ellen Says:

    April, it is indeed being with people like you that lifts my heart amidst this crisis.Your joyous, persistent, courageous heart radiates out all around you. Thank you.

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